सप्तपदी
thumb|300px|saptapadi saptapadi hindoo dharm mean vivah sanskar ka ek mahattvapoorn aang hai. isamean var uttar disha mean vadhu ko sat mantroan ke dvara sapt mandalikaoan mean sat padoan tak sath le jata hai. is kriya ke samay vadhu bhi dakshin pad uthakar pun: vamapad mandalikaoan mean rakhati hai. vivah ke samay saptapadi kriya ke bina vivah karm pakka nahian hota hai. agni ki char parikramaoan se yah krity alag hai. jis vivah mean saptapadi hoti hai, vah 'vaidik vivah' kahalata hai. saptapadi vaidik vivah ka abhinn aang hai. isake bina vivah poora nahian mana jata. saptapadi ke bad hi kanya ko var ke vam aang mean baithaya jata hai.
anivary karm
hindoo dharm mean vivah ke samay phere ityadi samast avashyak kary poorn ho jane par bhi, jab tak kanya var ke vam bhag mean nahian ati, tab tak vivah kary sampann nahian hota tatha kanya bhi tab tak kumari hi kahalati hai. 'saptapadi' vaidik vivah ka abhinn aang hai. isake bina vivah poora nahian mana jata. saptapadi ke bad hi kanya ko var ke vam aang mean baithaya jata hai-
"yavatkanya n vamaangi tavatkanya kumarika"
jab tak kanya var ke vamaang ki adhikarini nahian hoti, use kumari hi kaha jaega. chahe mata-pita kanyadan bhi kar dean, bhaee laja hom bhi karava dean, panigrahan sanskar bhi ho jae, lekin jab tak saptapadi nahian hoti, tab tak var aur kanya pati-patni nahian banate. vaidik vivah mean aantim adhikar kanya ko hi diya gaya hai. jab tak saptapadi ke satoan vachan poore nahian ho jate aur kanya var ke vam aang mean nahian baith jati, tab tak vivah poora mana hi nahian jaega. adhunik vicharadhara ke log chahe ise dikhava hi kyoan n kahean, lekin unhean bhi ye jan kar hairani hogi ki isamean donoan barabar haian aur satavean pad ke bad donoan sakha ban jate haian. duniya ki kisi vivah paddhati mean aisa barabar ka rishta nahian hai.
sat vachan
vivah ek aisa avasar hota hai, jab do iansanoan ke sath-sath do parivaroan ka jivan bhi poori tarah badal jata hai. bharatiy vivah mean vivah ki paranparaoan mean sat pheroan ka bhi ek chalan hai, jo sabase mukhy rasm hoti hai. hindoo dharm ke anusar sat pheroan ke bad hi shadi ki rasm poorn hoti hai. sat pheroan mean doolha v dulhan donoan se sat vachan lie jate haian. yah sat phere hi pati-patni ke rishte ko sat janmoan tak baandhate haian. hindoo vivah sanskar ke aantargat var-vadhoo agni ko sakshi manakar isake charoan or ghoomakar pati-patni ke roop mean ek sath sukh se jivan bitane ke lie pran karate haian aur isi prakriya mean donoan sat phere lete haian, jise saptapadi bhi kaha jata hai. yah satoan phere ya pad sat vachan ke sath lie jate haian. har phere ka ek vachan hota hai, jise pati-patni jivan bhar sath nibhane ka vada karate haian. yah sat phere hi 'hindoo vivah' ki sthirata ka mukhy stanbh hote haian.[1] thumb|200px|saptapadi mean sat phere prachin kal se hi bharat mean vivah ke samay sat vachanoan ka hindoo samaj mean bahut adhik prabhav raha hai. yah sat vachan var-vadhoo ko sukhi dampaty jivan ki or prerit karate haian. kanya ka vivah karate samay kisi bhi mata-pita ke man mean yah ashanka to rahati hi hai ki vivah ke pashchath unaki putri ka jivan kaisa vyatit hoga? sasural mean usake sath kaisa vyavahar kiya jaega? mata-pita ki isi ashanka ko door karane ke lie hi yugoan poorv rrishi-muniyoan dvara aisi vyavastha ki gee, jisase vivah ke pashchath bhi kanya ko kisi kasht ka samana n karana pade.[2]vaidik riti ke anusar adarsh vivah mean parijanoan ke samane agni ko apana sakshi manate hue sat phere lie jate haian. praranbh mean kanya age aur var pichhe chalata hai. bhale hi mata-pita kanya dan kar dean, bhaee laja hom kar de, kiantu vivah ki poornata 'saptapadi' ke pashchath tabhi mani jati hai, jab var ke sath sat kadam chalakar kanya apani svikriti de deti hai. isake lie kanya pati ke vamaang mean ane se poorv usase nimnalikhit sat vachan maangati hai-
pahala vachan
tirthavratodyapan yajnakarm maya sahaiv priyavayan kurya:
vamaangamayami tada tvadiyan braviti vakyan prathaman kumari.
yahaan kanya var se kahati hai ki "yadi ap kabhi tirthayatra ko jao to mujhe bhi apane sang lekar jana. koee vrat-upavas athava any dharm kary ap karean to aj ki bhaanti hi mujhe apane vam bhag mean avashy sthan dena. yadi ap ise svikar karate haian to maian apake vamaang mean ana svikar karati hooan." hindoo dharm mean kisi bhi prakar ke dharmik krihtyoan ki poornata hetu pati ke sath patni ka hona anivary mana gaya hai. jis dharmanushthan ko pati-patni mil kar karate haian, vahi sukhad phaladayak hota hai. patni dvara is vachan ke madhyam se dharmik karyoan mean patni ki sahabhagita, usake mahatv ko spasht kiya gaya hai.
doosara vachan
pujyau yatha svau pitarau mamapi tatheshabhakto nijakarm kurya:
vamaangamayami tada tvadiyan braviti kanya vachanan dvitiyam॥
kanya var se doosara vachan yah maangati hai ki "jis prakar ap apane mata-pita ka samman karate haian, usi prakar mere mata-pita ka bhi samman karean tatha kutumb ki maryada ke anusar dharmanushthan karate hue eeshvar bhakt bane rahean to maian apake vamaang mean ana svikar karati hooan." yahaan is vachan ke dvara kanya ki dooradrishti ka abhas hota hai. aj samay aur logoan ki soch kuchh is prakar ki ho chuki hai ki aksar dekhane ko milata hai ki grihhasth mean kisi bhi prakar ke apasi vad-vivad ki sthiti utpannahone par pati apani patni ke parivar se ya to sambandh kam kar deta hai athava samapt kar deta hai. uparokt vachan ko dhyan mean rakhate hue var ko apane sasural paksh ke sath sadavyavahar ke lie avashy vichar karana chahie.[2]
tisara vachan
jivanam avasthatraye mam palanaan kuryat
vamaanganyami tada tvadiyan braviti kanya vachanan trihtiyan॥
uparokt tisare vachan mean kanya var se kahati hai ki "ap mujhe ye vachan dean ki ap jivan ki tinoan avasthaoan- 'yuvavastha', 'praudhavastha', 'vrihddhavastha' mean mera palan karate raheangean, to hi maian apake vamaang mean ane ko taiyar hooan."
chautha vachan
kutumbasanpalanasarvakary kartu pratijnaan yadi katan kurya:
vamaangamayami tada tvadiyan braviti kanya vachanan chaturthan॥
chauthe vachan mean kanya var se maangati hai ki- "ab tak ap ghar-parivar ki chinta se poornat: mukt the. ab jabaki ap vivah ke bandhan mean bandhane ja rahe haian to bhavishy mean parivar ki samast avashyakataoan ki poorti ka dayitv apake kandhoan par hai. yadi ap is bhar ko vahan karane ki pratijna karean to hi maian apake vamaang mean a sakati hooan." is vachan mean kanya var ko bhavishy mean usake utaradayitvoan ke prati usaka dhyan akrihsht karati haian. vivah ke pashchath kutumb paushan hetu paryapt dhan ki avashyakata hoti hai. ab yadi pati poori tarah se dhan ke vishay mean pita par hi ashrit rahe to aisi sthiti mean grihhasthi bhala kaise chal paegi? isalie kanya chahati hai ki pati poorn roop se atmanirbhar hokar arthik roop se parivarik avashyakataoan ki poorti mean saksham ho sake. is vachan dvara yah bhi spasht kiya gaya hai ki putr ka vivah tabhi karana chahie, jab vah apane pairoan par khada ho aur paryapt matra mean dhanarjan aur ghar-grihasthi ki jimmedari uthane ki kshamata rakhata ho.[2]
paanchavaan vachan
svasadyakarye vyavaharakarmanye vyaye mamapi mantrayetha
vamaangamayami tada tvadiyan broote vach: panchamatr kanya॥
is vachan mean kanya var se jo kahati hai, vah aj ke paripeksh mean atyant mahatv rakhata hai. kanya kahati hai ki- "apane ghar ke karyoan mean, vivahadi, len-den athava any kisi hetu kharch karate samay yadi ap meri bhi mantrana liya karean to maian apake vamaang mean ana svikar karati hooan." yah vachan poori tarah se patni ke adhikaroan ko rekhaankit karata hai. bahut-se vyakti kisi bhi prakar ke kary mean patni se salah karana bhi avashyak nahian samajhate. yadi kisi bhi kary ko karane se poorv patni se mantrana kar li jae to isase patni ka samman to badhata hi hai, sath-sath apane adhikaroan ke prati santushti ka bhi abhas hota hai.
chhatha vachan
n mepamanaman savidhe sakhinaan dyootan n va durvyasanan bhanjashchet
vamamgamayami tada tvadiyan braviti kanya vachanan ch shashtham॥
is vachan mean kanya kahati hai ki- "yadi maian apani sakhiyoan athava any striyoan ke bich baithi hooan, tab ap vahaan sabake sammukh kisi bhi karan se mera apaman nahian kareange. yadi ap jua athava any kisi bhi prakar ke durvyasan se apane ap ko door rakhean to hi maian apake vamaang mean ana svikar karati hooan." vartaman paripekshy mean is vachan mean gambhir arth samahit haian. vivah ke pashchath kuchh purushoan ka vyavahar badalane lagata hai. ve jara-jara si bat par sabake samane patni ko daant-dapat dete haian. aise vyavahar se patni ka man ahat hota hai. yahaan patni chahati hai ki beshak ekaant mean pati use jaisa chahe daante, kintu sabake samane usake samman ki raksha ki jae, sath hi vah kinhian durvyasanoan mean phansakar apane grihhasth jivan ko nasht n kar le.[2]
satavaan vachan
parastriyan matrihsamaan samikshy snehan sada chenmayi kant kurya
vamaangamayami tada tvadiyan broote vach: saptamamatr kanya॥
is antim vachan ke roop mean kanya var maangati hai ki- "ap paraee striyoan ko mata ke saman samajheangean aur pati-patni ke apasi prem ke madhy any kisi ko bhagidar nahian banaeangean. yadi ap yah vachan mujhe dean to hi maian apake vamaang mean ana svikar karati hooan." vivah ke pashchath yadi vyakti kisi bahy stri ke akarshan mean bandh kar pagabhrasht ho jata to usaki grihasthi barbad ho jati hai. isalie is vachan ke madhyam se kanya apane bhavishy ko surakshit rakhane ka prayas karati hai.
eeshvar ko sakshi manakar kie ge in sapt sankalp roopi stambhoan par sukhi grihhasth jivan ka bhar tika hua hai. yahi satoan vachan dampaty sambandhoan ko sudrid adhar pradan karate haian. kabhi jis samay yah vyavastha banaee gee hogi, us yug mean purush die ge vachanoan ko poori tarah se nibhane ko sankalpashil hota hoga. vivah ke pashchath patni ki samast avashyakataoan ko poora karane ke sath-sath usaki asmita tatha garima ki raksha ka dayitv bhi pati ka hi hota hai. isalie sabhi satoan vachan bhi pati se hi lie jate haian taki vah patni ka poorn roop se dhyan rakh sake. pati bhi ji jan se apane vachanoan ko nibhata hai. is karan dampaty sambandhoan mean bhi madhurata, prem, anurag, samarpan adi dekhane ko milata hai.[2]
sankhya sat hi kyoan
hindoo vivah mean 'saptapadi' ke samay agni ke sat phere tatha var-vadhu dvara sat vachan hi kyoan nirdharit kie ge haian? inaki sankhya sat se kam ya adhik bhi ho sakati thi. dhyan dene yogy bat hai ki 'bharatiy sanskriti' mean sat ki sankhya manav jivan ke lie bahut vishisht mani gee hai. var-vadhu satoan vachanoan ko kabhi n bhoolean aur ve unaki dinacharya mean shamil ho jaean. aisa mana jata hai, kyoanki varsh evan mahinoan ke kal khandoan ko sat dinoan ke saptah mean vibhajit kiya gaya hai. soory ke rath mean sat gho de hote haian, jo soory ke prakash se milane vale sat rangoan mean prakat hote haian. akash mean iandradhanush ke samay ve satoan rang spasht dikhaee dete haian. daanpaty jivan mean iandradhanushi rangoan ki satarangi chhata bikharati rahe, is kamana se 'saptapadi' ki prakriya poori ki jati hai. 'maitri saptapadin muchyate' arthat 'ek sath sirf sat kadam chalane matr se hi do anajan vyaktiyoan mean bhi maitri bhav utpann ho jata hai.'
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